Much was said about women and the criticisms directed against them during the presidential campaign between Betos and Lipstick, often by other women. How many times have we heard that women are worst at these things? Is it true that there are women who criticize other women more than men? Yes.
However, when we problematize this problem, we conclude that we can only draw anecdotal evidence from it. There are women who criticize other women more. End. Are these women the majority? We do not know. What if these or other women criticize more than men? We do not know.
The conclusion that women harm women the most therefore raises two main problems that harm them. It sounds like a circular argument, but the circle we cannot break is that of the patriarchal system.
Patriarchy can be defined as the socio-economic system based on gender power and privilege – and to some extent on race and social class. This system creates a power dynamic that favors a particular group at the intersection of gender, race and class. Every relationship in society has a play of forces that can be any combination of these three aspects. If, even if this is artificial and for the purpose of the problematization in question, we only emphasize the issue of gender, men belong to the preferred group, to the group that has more freedom of choice and therefore makes more decisions and determines.
In this context, let us return to the two problems that arise from the initial question. Saying that women are the ones who judge other women the most shifts the focus from the root of the problem – patriarchy – and puts the burden and responsibility of resolving the situation on the shoulders of women. Which, in turn, does nothing but maintain patriarchy. Here we are again in a circle.
The second problem is that the door opens to the idea that it is necessary to support all women against anything and in any situation in order to be a feminist (understand, in favor of gender equality). Here, too, this ditch logic helps to maintain the existing unequal power relationship between the sexes.
Systems produce our identities and the underlying hierarchies maintain inequalities.
I do not want to deny the experience of those women who feel or feel more attacked by other women, in their personal decisions or in their professional careers. However, there is one consideration that must be carried out before concluding that “women are the worst”. Because these attacks are often just a symptom of inequality.
For example, if there is only one in ten places in the direction of an organization that is occupied by a woman, women are more neglected than men. Given this unequal competition, the solidarity demanded by women is stronger than that demanded by men.
The same example serves to problematize the voices heard when a woman reaches a top position: “She has risen horizontally”, “She is a woman, a man”, “She is aggressive and bossy”. Even when these words are spoken by women, there are systemic, institutional ideas about gender roles behind them. It is these roles, at least when viewed watertight and binary, that feed the hierarchy of the patriarchal system; and criticism must rest on them.
Systems produce our identities and the underlying hierarchies maintain inequalities. The rest is noise.