When perfectionism becomes a problem megaphone

We have always heard of perfectionism as a quality, but can you see when it becomes a problem? The perfectionist is someone who pays attention to details and “brings in as much as he does”, as Ricardo Reis wrote in Odes. However, this can make you feel like nothing is right. Tasks are often revised under pressure to achieve excellence. There is great fear of feedback and when we do it there is a sense of temporary satisfaction and various questions. The fear of failure makes it a pleasant activity during a time of stress and anxiety.

This personality trait tends to extend to social life. The perfectionist cannot even imagine working with someone who is not up to his profession, nor can he identify in the area of ​​his personal life with someone who does not achieve his ideals. These people therefore not only challenge themselves, but also others.

The perfectionist cannot even imagine working with someone who is not up to his profession, nor can he identify in the area of ​​his personal life with someone who does not achieve his ideals.

It is necessary to understand when to stop, being aware of your limits and being open to criticism. In the student landscape, we can see how students compete with one another, especially in terms of grades. The younger are pressured by their parents, although they have developed faster over the generations, and the older are already aware of the current demand. I think it’s difficult to keep your balance when the world is running at a pace that is difficult to keep up with, be it technology or informational. However, if we overcharge ourselves, it only leads to exhaustion and stagnation. We live in a sentimental society that is intensely concerned with what it is doing and that suddenly we no longer know how to position ourselves in space because we had problems at work and cannot forget them.

To combat this type of dysfunctional behavior, first and foremost, like everything in life, one has to accept that this is not the right direction and is ready to change, however scary it may be. Evolution is a gradual process, not an immediate one, and involves being exposed to different perspectives. Therefore, it is very important to listen to the other and not see our truth as absolute truth. Not mixing the spaces we have throughout the day is another point that we should take into account as the moments for us or for our family will never be moments to work in and there are also productive moments when resulting from these dialogues. Then we can and must forego excessive scrutiny of ongoing work and make more effective decisions.

Finally, and taking into account the existing hierarchy in the various sectors, understanding that we are all human, that it is natural to make mistakes and that those at the top sometimes make mistakes too. This is about understanding where you went wrong and developing strategies so that you don’t repeat the same mistake again. I would say that intelligence boils down to this – learning from mistakes.

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